Recently Patti LaBelle went on “Watch What Happens Live” with Andy Cohen and spoke out about her late great friend, Luther Vandross.

She revealed a few secrets regarding his sexuality that caught a lot of us off guard. “We talked about it,” said LaBelle. “Basically he did not want his mother to be…although she might have known, but he wasn’t going to come out and say this to the world. And he had a lot of lady fans and he told me he just didn’t want to upset the world.”

As ya’ll can see, LaBelle spilled some serious tea! This brings up the whole question of is it okay to tell your friend’s secrets? I personally say no. I know that if one of my friends tell me something in confidence, it will remain in confidence. I stand by this philosophy not only because it is the right thing to do but I know that I want the same treatment reciprocated back to me.

My best friends and I tell each other pretty much any and everything and truthfully speaking I would be slightly terrified to have some of my most personal thoughts shared with people I didn’t share them with myself. You know that spoken rule about “whatever is said in this room stays in this room,” well my friends and I take that so seriously.

Even though there were speculations for many years pertaining to the sexuality of Luther Vandross, it wasn’t really necessary for us to know the truth, especially after all of these years. Regardless of his sexuality, we remember him for the great singer that he was. He never decided to tell the world what may have really been going through his mind and he is owed the respect and courtesy for it to have remained that way.

So, would you tell your friend’s secrets?